CONTRIBUTOR: Raven Akashiya
Sometimes one call is all it takes. Yet what if that one call is too hard?
This past weekend I spent with three amazing people. Two were my friends, the other happened to be a friend that I had once shared with my ex. I knew that my friends and I would have a blast, as we always do. However, I was a little skeptical about the shared friend. After all I did leave my ex and after nearly four years of no contact was sure to leave a bad taste in his mouth. However I once again was shocked by what came about.
I had spent the past couple weeks calling and texting him everyday just trying to catch up on what was new, after all four years is a long time. Since we had spoke last my life had done a complete 180. I was now living back home in the midst of a nasty divorce with different issues that I had never experienced before; while he had kept moving forward in his life with little to no setbacks. I had never thought in a million years that the conversations of our different situations would lead to an almost three hour long drive for him.
I sat impatiently waiting for him. I had not seen this man, my best friend, in over five years and I was unsure what to expect. Yet, when he pulled up he greeted me with a smile and a hug. It was almost as if a day had not passed without our hour long conversations and the normal joking. My fears of the awkwardness that came with complete abandonment of a strong relationship was all for nothing. We spent several hours chatting, drinking coffee, and munching on a dip known as “Texas Caviar”. Not once did I feel the need to hide anything and I realized that our relationship had only grown stronger. It wasn’t affected by the distance, the lack of communication for all those years, or even my ex. Sometimes all you need to do is make the first move.
I have been accused having of a cynical attitude, I guess they are right.